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5-10 minutesCreating a Positive Atmosphere
Warmly greet the employee and ask how they are doing.
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Step-by-step guide: Personnel Conversation
Total duration approx. 55–70 minutesQuick Reference
As a leader, you need to conduct many Employee Conversations and need a standardized approach - that's what our guides are for. Optimize your preparation and conduct structured, goal-oriented conversations.
Personnel Conversation — Quick Reference (5 phases)
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15-20 minutesSituational Analysis & Understanding
Ask specific questions about recent projects and their progress.
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10-15 minutesFocusing on Strengths & Potentials
Provide specific examples of the employee's strengths.
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15-20 minutesPlanning Support Measures
Provide targeted training or mentoring opportunities.
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10-15 minutesMotivation & Positive Outlook
Summarize the points discussed and emphasize the positive aspects.
The 5 Phases for successful Employee Conversations
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Creating a Positive Atmosphere
5-10 minutesBegin the conversation with a friendly introduction and a smile. Ensure that the room is quiet and inviting to foster open communication.
Tips
- Warmly greet the employee and ask how they are doing.
Example phrases
- "["Schön, dass Sie da sind! Wie geht es Ihnen heute?","Ich hoffe, Sie hatten eine gute Woche. Gibt es etwas, das Sie gerne teilen möchten?","Ich möchte, dass Sie sich wohlfühlen, während wir miteinander sprechen."]"
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Situational Analysis & Understanding
15-20 minutesDiscuss the employee's current challenges and successes. Actively listen and ask targeted questions to gain a comprehensive understanding.
Tips
- Ask specific questions about recent projects and their progress.
Example phrases
- "["Könnten Sie mir bitte erzählen, wie das letzte Projekt für Sie verlaufen ist?","Was waren die größten Herausforderungen, denen Sie gegenüberstanden?","Ich habe den Eindruck, dass Sie in letzter Zeit viel gearbeitet haben. Wie fühlen Sie sich dabei?"]"
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Focusing on Strengths & Potentials
10-15 minutesIdentify the employee's strengths and discuss how they can be further developed. Highlight positive aspects and encourage self-reflection.
Tips
- Provide specific examples of the employee's strengths.
Example phrases
- "["Mir ist aufgefallen, dass Sie besonders gut im Team arbeiten. Was denken Sie darüber?","In welchem Bereich möchten Sie Ihre Fähigkeiten am liebsten weiter ausbauen?","Ich sehe großes Potenzial in Ihnen, vor allem in Ihrem kreativen Denken."]"
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Planning Support Measures
15-20 minutesDiscuss possible support measures that can help the employee achieve their goals. Be open to suggestions and offer resources.
Tips
- Provide targeted training or mentoring opportunities.
Example phrases
- "["Welche Art von Unterstützung würden Sie sich wünschen, um Ihre Ziele zu erreichen?","Ich kann Ihnen gerne eine Schulung anbieten, die Ihnen in diesem Bereich hilft. Was halten Sie davon?","Lassen Sie uns konkrete Schritte planen, um Ihre Entwicklung zu unterstützen."]"
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Motivation & Positive Outlook
10-15 minutesConclude the conversation with a positive summary and a forward-looking perspective. Reinforce the employee's skills and demonstrate your support.
Tips
- Summarize the points discussed and emphasize the positive aspects.
Example phrases
- "["Ich bin überzeugt, dass Sie mit diesen Maßnahmen große Fortschritte machen werden.","Lassen Sie uns in Kontakt bleiben, um Ihre Entwicklungen gemeinsam zu verfolgen.","Ich schätze Ihre Arbeit sehr und freue mich auf die nächsten Schritte mit Ihnen."]"
Avoid Mistakes
Common mistakes in Employee Conversations
and how to avoid them
These typical mistakes can jeopardize the success of your conversation. Recognize them early and respond professionally.
Mistake #1
Lack of Structure in Conversations
You find yourself jumping from topic to topic. "Oh, and one more thing..." The conversation becomes chaotic, and important points get lost. Our AI suggests: "Today, we will discuss three points: performance, development goals, and next steps." A clear agenda creates focus and direction.
Mistake #2
Monologue Instead of Dialogue
You talk 80% of the time. "Let me explain how I see it..." The employee becomes passive, and their perspective goes unheard. Our AI suggests: "How do you view your performance this quarter?" Asking questions and actively listening turns conversations into genuine exchanges.
Mistake #3
Goals Remain Vague
You formulate your feedback in ambiguous terms. "You should try harder." Without measurable goals, there is no clear direction for improvement. Our AI suggests: "By the end of next month, I expect weekly status updates on your projects." Concrete, measurable agreements create clarity.
Mistake #4
Defensive Reactions Escalate
When faced with opposition, you may become insecure or feel the need to justify yourself. "But as a leader, I must..." The conversation turns into a power struggle instead of focusing on problem-solving. Our AI suggests: "I understand your perspective. Let's work together to find a solution." Maintaining composure and looking ahead strengthens the relationship.
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