First, prepare the specific reason for the conversation: What happened, who was affected, and what impact did it have on safety, quality, speed, or collaboration? This way, you don’t walk into the discussion on gut feeling—you bring a solid basis.
Then define your goal. Do you want to clarify the behavior, have responsibility taken, stabilize collaboration, or set a binding rule for future handovers? Without a clear objective, conflict discussions quickly drift into arguments about the past.
It also helps to mentally prepare for sensitive reactions: justification, counterattack, staying silent, or pointing to other shifts/layers. If you have formulations ready for those moments, you’ll stay calmer. Good preparation, therefore, doesn’t mean memorizing a script—it means clearly working out the reason, your goal, potential objections, and the next steps in advance.